The Front Porch Test

Do you ever pause and imagine yourself in the future? Where you will be and with whom?

We always look into the future and imagine the things that we want to own, but rarely do we think of the relationships that we want to have, or the people we want to be surrounded with…

A while ago I watched a show, and in one of the episodes, they talk about who, in their present lives, passes the front porch test. The theory is: If they can imagine themselves hanging out with someone when they’re older, on their front porch, they will nurture the friendship!

The idea was funny to me at first but got me thinking! The front porch is a metaphor of course, but it’s such a nice picture: Close your eyes for a moment and picture yourself hanging out with a couple of really close longtime friends, sipping tea or a cold drink, talking, sharing…. Isn’t that so sweet?

I started thinking of the friends who are in my present life, picturing myself with them when I’m way older and connecting with the feelings and sensations that each one was bringing. Is it a valid theory? Maybe! But I feel that if I can see myself growing older with someone and sharing so much time, if our relationship is mutually nurturing, if we have things in common and share the same values, it’s worth considering right?

When you look at your future who do you see on your front porch?

Is it time to make changes? To let go of some of the relationships that don’t nurture our souls?

I would love to hear your thoughts! Please share them with me 😊